Author name: Heather Rai

I often feel most connected with others when we share our vulnerabilities and imperfections and realise that we’re all quite messy and unpredictable. Sometimes people think that therapists have it all sorted and we’re closer to getting things right than we might have been before training. Nope! What I learned in training, and since, is to be more aware, open and accepting of all my messiness and imperfections and I think that that is a large part of what therapy can offer everyone. It doesn’t fix you because you’re not broken in the first place.

Understandably, deciding to try counselling and contacting a counsellor for the first time might feel quite scary. When else would you contact a stranger with the knowledge that you might tell them things that you’ve never spoken to anyone else about before?

One of the things I love about Person-Centred Experiential counselling is that the sessions just flow wherever the client wants to go. There’s no agenda set by the counsellor.

Counselling is a relationship that aims to be as genuine as possible and with the focus always on the person who’s in that room to get their needs met (the client).

I don’t feel any need to change the people I work with. In fact I’m quite uncomfortable when I think about that possibility as it implies I know what they should be better than they know that themselves.